Sexual Positions for People with Reduced Mobility: A Comprehensive Guide
The information in this guide is not a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. This guide is not intended to cover all disabled people and their sexual needs, but rather to provide a starting point for disabled people and their partners to find information that may help them.
In this comprehensive guide, you'll find everything you need to know about the topic — definitions, techniques, practical tips, and product recommendations.
Misconceptions about sex and disability
There are many misconceptions about sex and disabilities. Some people think that disabled people are asexual, or that they cannot have sex. This is not the case! Disabled people can and do have sex. They just need to be a little more creative.
Another common misconception is that all disabled people are the same. This is also false! Everyone is different and has different needs. It is important to remember that not all of the following positions are suitable for everyone.
Some disabled people can have sex without any adaptations, while others may need to use sex toys, adapt their position, or use other tools to help them.
There is no "right" way to make love, so don't be afraid to experiment until you find what works for you!
The health benefits of sex
Sex is not only a fun and pleasurable activity, but it also has many health benefits.
Here are some of the health benefits of sex:
- Better mental health
- Increased immunity
- Lower blood pressure
- Improved sleep
- Reduced stress
- Improved heart health
- Better self-esteem
- Better quality of relationships.
So, not only is sex a pleasurable activity, but it's also good for your health!
Take care with your foreplay.
Our bodies are full of extra-sensitive areas, called erogenous zones, which can offer intense sensations and thrills when touched in the right way. Some of the most popular erogenous zones include the ears, neck, and inner thighs.
Foreplay is one of the easiest ways to spice things up, regardless of physical restrictions. Remember that all your senses can be engaged. A sensual massage oil, aromatic candles, ice cubes, and all sorts of other things can help you spice up your sex life.
Take the time to savor each other's bodies by touching, kissing, stroking, and massaging, then see how things heat up. Slowness can be a huge advantage during foreplay, and physical limitations are usually not an obstacle.
General tips and tricks.
Use lubricant
The highlight: Lubricant is the most underused sex tool by people with different abilities and mobility.
Designed to increase the amount of glide during skin-on-skin, intimate-on-intimate, and genital-on-toy contact, lubricant helps eliminate unpleasant friction in favor of pleasurable sensations.
If you use a mobility aid, use it to your advantage
If you have a wheelchair, cane, walker, or other mobility aid, we recommend finding a way to eroticize it during sex.
"If you use a wheelchair, for example, you can treat it like any other type of sex furniture," they explain. Your partner could grab the armrests while kneeling in front of you to get closer, he adds.
And if your chair reclines, you can use it to position your body in the most comfortable position for play.
Invest in erotic furniture and positioning pillows
Don't have a mobility aid that you can turn into a positioning aid? Consider investing in a real positioning aid, such as a sex pillow, a tantra chair, or a sex swing.
Sex swings and benches can relieve pressure and allow you to try new positions and angles without the pressure of standing on a bed. A tantra sofa positions your body and hips at an optimal angle for stimulation.
Think about sex toys
There is no definitive answer to this question, as everyone's needs and preferences differ. However, here are some general tips that may be helpful:
- Check out websites and forums specifically for people with reduced mobility. This can be a great way to discover products that may be particularly well suited to your needs.
- Check out online sex toy reviews. This can give you a good idea of which products to prioritize.
- Talk to your doctor or another healthcare professional. They may be able to provide you with helpful information and advice.
Conclusion
Sex is for everyone who wants to enjoy it, including those with reduced mobility.
"The most important thing is your comfort. So whether you're having solo sex, oral sex, or penetrative sex, find a position that's comfortable for you and your partner(s)."
And be open to adjusting and moving if you're in pain, tired, or experiencing any discomfort, she says. After all, the best sex is fluid, pleasure-focused, and unencumbered by social scripts about what sex "should" be.
Rédigé par l'équipe Sofa Tantra, spécialistes du mobilier érotique et du bien-être intime depuis plus de 10 ans.